Singleness is part of the cycle of life. Everyone is born single. Many eventually marry, but others stay single. For us believers, we see singleness as a gift of God if we look at it through the eyes of God. 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 says about singleness, "I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord's work and thinking how to please him (God). But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible." The key to contentment in singleness is to enjoy God and serve Him well.
There is a misconception that being married is better than being single. Older generations see marriage as a security. However, this is a false understanding of marriage and singleness. How many families that we know that ended up being divorced for whatever reasons? Many married couples today are lonely and wish that they were single again. Being married is not the answer to loneliness. Only our devotion to God will make us content. When we try to use others to make us complete, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment because others cannot satisfy the longing of our hearts, for no one is perfect. When we are obsessed with being married, we will not be content, and this may lead us to a lot of trouble. So, what should we do when we are single? The answer is simple: we need to pursue and enjoy God's presence and serve Him. Be active in the church, and always be open to meeting someone who might interest you. I believe it is okay to desire to get married, but not to the point that it consumes us.
The great attitude of singleness is to enjoy being single—hang out with your godly single friends. Get involved with group Bible studies and prayer. Serve the Lord in any ministry while working full-time or as a student. Go on mission trips and travel if you can. Enjoy adventures and the outdoors. There are so many things that you can enjoy while being single. Explore the world and grow in your relationship with the Lord. Be the person that God wants you to be, and when you experience loneliness, remind yourself that marriage is not the answer; the answer is to be content with God by seeking after Him and pouring your heart into Him. In due time, if God wants you to get married, He will guide you to your future spouse.
Ask yourself these questions for application: (Think through carefully and meditate on the questions while answering them, and let the Spirit of God speak to you). What should be my aim or goal as a single person? How can I enjoy being single? Is marriage the answer to my loneliness?
Write down all the worries you face today and lift them up to God.
Prayer:
Father in Heaven, my singleness is a gift from you. Please forgive me if I have been obsessed with getting married. You are the only one who can bring contentment to my life. Please help me to seek after you and serve you well. Please help me to enjoy my singleness and use it to honor and glorify your name. In due time, if you want me to get married, you will guide me to my future spouse. In your name, Lord Jesus, I pray. Amen.