• Danny Domingo

DEALING WITH ANGER


When we feel powerless in our unmet needs, we tend to become confused and frustrated. When we are confused and frustrated, we can become anxious or fearful, and our fear can drive us to anger, leading to rage. Almost all people who have a problem with anger have a problem with fear because the common coping mechanism of fear is anger. Fear is what drives a person to get angry—fear of not being in control of the situation, fear of being accused, fear of being misunderstood or taken advantage of, fear of losing reputation, fear of losing, etc. Not all anger is a sin because the Bible clearly states in Ephesians 4:26 says, "Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger." When Jesus entered the temple and saw the business people made the temple a business market instead of a house of prayer, He got angry and drove all the business people out of the temple (Matthew 21:12). Jesus was angry because of sin and unrighteousness. He was angry for a moment and corrected the situation, and He calmed down and continued with His earthly ministry.


Anger becomes a problem when it consumes us, and we say or do things that hurt others and displeased our Heavenly Father. There are ways that we can cope with anger. When we feel getting angry, we need to step away from the situation, take a deep breath (try to relax), go for a walk/run, identify the cause/reason of anger, pray for calmness, and allow the Spirit of God to speak truth into our hearts, wait and cool off, then apologize. Whenever I get angry, I step away from the situation, take a walk or run, and start to pray for my anger and ask God to minister to me. God then helps me to calm down and understand my situation. I apply the truth of God in my mind, and then I ask for forgiveness from God and the person I hurt because of my anger or forgive those who hurt me.


Let us not be consumed with anger, for it can harm ourselves and the people we care about and love. Psalm 37:8 says, "Stop being angry! Turn from your rage! Do not lose your temper—it only leads to harm." The other option we can do to deal with our anger is to talk to someone about it. It can be a counselor, a friend, a family member, or a minister. Remember, anger can be a wildfire that can destroy everything on its path. God called us to be a light (leading others to God) and not a fire that destroys.


Ask yourself these questions: Do I get angry quickly? What is the root cause of my anger? What are the things that I need to do when I am getting angry?


Write down all the worries that you are facing today and lift them up to God.


Prayer:

Father in Heaven, please forgive me if I let anger consume me. Please help me to deal with my anger in a way that pleases you. I do not want to hurt myself or others that I care about and love. In the name of Jesus, I pray. Amen.